I believe that if you measure your life by anything measurable, you’ll never feel satisfied. If you measure your life by how much money you have, you’ll never have enough money. If you measure your life by how far you’ve climbed in your career, you’ll always think about the next step. If you measure your life by the places you’ve gone, you’ll always think about the places you haven’t been. If you measure your life by the people you meet, you’ll just want to meet more people.
The problem with life is that there are quantifiable ways to evaluate one’s existence. “Oh, that guy is successful at life because he makes over $100K.” “That woman must be happy because her kids are really cute.” “That guy wins at life because he has six-pack abs.”
We’re always living for the next moment.
I can’t wait until I’m old enough to drive.
I can’t wait until college.
I can’t wait until I can live on my own.
I can’t wait until I have a career.
I can’t wait until I’m married.
I can’t wait until I have my own family.
I can’t wait until my kids move out.
I can’t wait until I retire.
I can’t wait until I have grandkids.
I can’t wait until I’m dead.
and if it’s not life’s milestones, then it’s the year’s markers.
I can’t wait until spring.
I can’t wait until summer.
I can’t wait for my vacation.
I can’t wait until the holidays.
I can’t wait for the new season of _____
I can’t wait for the new restaurant to open
I can’t wait for that movie
I can’t wait for the weekend.
What is so awful about living in the present? What does a person do when they’re not constantly waiting for the next thing?
As kids we look forward to getting older and gaining responsibility.
As teenagers we look forward to the freedom of turning 21 and being able to make our own life decisions.
In our 20’s we look forward to the financial and social stability of being in our 30’s.
In our 30’s and 40’s we probably look forward when your kids move out of the house.
In our 50’s we probably look forward to retirement.
In our 60’s we probably look forward to dying.
I think that’s why people have kids in their 30’s. They need children to be able to mark milestones again because there aren’t too many more milestones once you’re past your 20’s. Children provide a sense of time by watching them learn to crawl, walk, talk, and challenge you.
I feel like life is a race or a game and I’m falling behind. I’m proud that I found a job right out of college, but it looks like by this time next year I might not have a career.
And also, I’m going to be turning 25 this year. That’s a big one. 25 is light years away from 15. When I was a teenager I thought being 25 was old. Like I should be buying a house and getting married and having kids. I’m not sure if I want any of those things.
But I should have a career. It’s my 20’s. Why do I feel like I’ve made a horrible decision to become a teacher. Should I give it more time? Or should I think about being something else. I already have 30 years worth of student debt to pay off. What’s another degree?